What’s In a Number: How the Enneagram Can Strengthen Our Connections

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Many of us have heard of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). I’m an ENFP: “The Campaigner.” This widely used, more traditional approach to assessing personality types has been around since 1915. Fun fact: MBTI was invented by two women! Companies use it to help employees better understand themselves and others. 

But MBTI only takes you so far. I wanted more; I craved a tool that could tell me more about my natural, God-given talents—and stressors—in an effort to better relate to others, whether that’s my husband, clients, coworkers, kids and even my friends. 

Enter the Enneagram. 

Based on ancient concepts on the importance of inner work, the Enneagram is a psychological and emotional compass that was brought to me by one of our valued employees and—in a different setting—my sister-in-law (the universe giving me a “wink”). The Enneagram system provides a framework/context for energy, thought patterns and emotions that shape our character and can be very useful in improving the way we relate to others.

It has become one of my go-to tools to help me be the best version of myself.

My Number

If you know me, it’s pretty clear I’m a textbook Enneagram 3: “The Performer.” Which suggests:

  • I’d rather lead than follow any day.

  • I can find a way to win over and connect with just about anyone.

  • The keys to my happiness are efficiency and productivity.

  • I’m a world-champion multitasker. 

  • It’s hard for me not to take work along on a vacation. 

  • People say I don’t know how or when to stop working. 

Taken from “The Road Back to You” by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile.

When we know our number, we can identify the healthiest parts of our personality as well as potential blind spots and pitfalls. 

Where’s my growth potential? The knowing also helps me address stressors or triggers that try to throw me off balance. How am I reacting to stress? When out of balance, Type 3s may turn to apathy and feel like the wind has been knocked out of them.

Can we be more intentional in nurturing our highest and best, and find ways to remove obstructions from that divine appointment?

What It Means

As we all work to shape our best lives, I hope the same perspective for each of you. 

Interested? Curious? Take a test to see what number you are: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

Already know? Do tell! How have you found the Enneagram to be beneficial in how you see yourself? Others?

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